Yes, you could wear it. But would you grab it again?

It’s Black Friday email time…I swear that every holiday just turns into a weeks long opportunity to sell stuff, Christmas being the worst.🙄

But I have the same philosophy as when we talked about end-of-summer sales earlier this summer. I encouraged you to look for the holes you found in your summer wardrobe and check out the 40% to see what you can add in.

That’s where we are now, but it’s the fall pieces that came out back in late August that is now on sale. With some colder days under our belt, is there something you may want to add?

(Side note- just remember, it’s all going to be 65% off in a few weeks. If there is something you are holding out for, and you don’t care if it sells out and you can’t find it, you should check in with it in January.)

I went down a small rabbit hole of clickable links "just to see what's out there". I only recommend that if you have strong boundaries-haha! We do love the thrill of "it was normally $149 and now only $56!" But that's also how we end up with a closet full of clothes and no plan. Let me share the back and forth about a dress I purchased on a great deal, that I didn’t really need.

I ended up taking back a dress after asking some good questions.

Best question to ask. How am I going to wear this? Meaning what part of my life will I wear this dress. It was beautiful, fits me perfectly, and VERY similar to one I have. So I looked at them both and it was really clear I'd pick the one I already have.

See, I get this all the time in closets. Clients will tell me all the ways they'll wear it (even though they haven't). "I could wear it out with girlfriends, or to a dinner, or something"

Yes, you could. But what are you grabbing now? Would you grab it again?

More questions follow this.

Why are you always grabbing the other outfits? Is this one just too far back and you forget about it? Is this one a little out of your comfort zone? Are you evolving your style and this is left behind?

You know I'm ALL about a first tier "just in case", but you have to commit to putting it into rotation and making yourself wear it. If you never do, there's your answer to keeping it or letting go. If you feel stuck styling it- that's a different session. There are so many ways to style pieces, let's figure it out instead of giving up.

But if you keep trying it on, scrinching up your face and taking it off to throw it on the floor…there's your answer. (Let's figure out why before you donate it though, or you'll just buy it again in another color and not realize it was a cut, fabric or style issue.)

Why wouldn't I keep it as a "just in case"?

So with this dress, I love it, it was a fantastic price, great colors, and fit. Why wouldn't I keep it as a "just in case"? Because the way I would wear it represents a small part of my life. Can I dress it down with a leather bomber?

Sure.

Will I?

Probably not, because I have so many other ways to show up in that part of my circle.

Here's a visual I used in a workshop this summer, which is also part of my Closet Therapy Workbook my clients go through. Think about the WAY you live your life, so we can line up what you have to see the gaps.

If you want to see where your gaps actually are, and what they're costing you, the audit takes two minutes.